Today is Valentine’s Day and I though I’d make this post a little something about the most awaited–and most dreaded day of the year.
These past few days have been marred with a few disagreements between me and Jason. Mostly because I think he plays too much Xbox while he thinks I dabble in too many things. But the most striking line during our exchange was said by him:
“No one is ever good enough for you.”
So what is indeed good enough for me?
Disclaimer: This is my personal list of what’s good enough. It might be different from what others believe in. Hey, it’s a free country. Feel free to write your own thoughts on the comment section.
A man is good enough for me if…
He is a responsible person.
Being responsible is a big deal for me. I have my parents to thank for that. Being an adult is difficult enough as it is but being an adult with family is even harder. When you have monthly bills to pay, being irresponsible will be a hard blow on every relationships. Even if you don’t have kids, you still have adult responsibilities to fulfill: taxes, bills, rent or mortgages. Being responsible is not only limited on the financial aspect of life. I want my man to be responsible enough to live a well balance lifestyle. I’m not too keen on being a widow.
He dreams big and gives his best shot to achieve them.
I always believe that people who dream big have 90% chances of living the life they want. The remaining 10% is the effort they put into achieving it. If you don’t dream big, what’s left to achieve?
He knows how to have fun.
You can be responsible and still have fun. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t know how to have fun. I would die…of boredom.
He’s great with kids.
I have 3 little boys. He has to get along with them 80% of the time so that’s playing, eating and playing again. 20% is left to parenting and that covers pep talks and sermons.
He’s good at time management.
I’m not even good at this myself so he has to be good in it. When I’m running behind on everything else, he has to help put me back on track.
He’s neat and always pleasant to be with.
Who doesn’t want to be with a well dressed and fresh smelling person?
He loves me for what I am, faults and all.
Selfish but this is the person we’ve all been looking for: Someone to love us back the way we want to be loved. I’m not saying that he cannot complain about my faults because he can. I would try to improve myself but I won’t be doing it for him, I would be doing it for myself. When we love, we cannot force the other person to change. When we love, it means we’ve accepted that person without any conditions or reservations. It’s tough but that’s the very definition of love as God has taught us: unconditional.
We’re ok now. Like any arguments, they always blow over. But I still would like to say if there really is no one good enough for me. Because there is. And he’s that man.
Happy Valentine’s Day Jason!